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Self Care Is Not Selfish

Hello, how are ya?

I don’t know if it’s fall and the cold weather coming or what, but…. Change is in the air.

I know that change is supposed to be a good thing and blah blah blah. But overall, I am not a fan. I like routine. I like the boring same ole, same ole. When things don’t go as planned, my heart beats just a little faster. Oh! I also sweat. And not a few beads of sweat that just pop up on the tip of your nose…. I mean gross tension sweat that drenches your back and armpits. It’s really not very pretty or ladylike.

But I am coming to the understanding, that having this response to change and the unexpected is actually kinda laughable. Because really, none of us have any control over anything. We like to think we do and we set the “oh so important rules“ that we must live our life by.

But in the end, the sun will rise tomorrow regardless of if my day goes as planned or I follow the rules. And I guess that thought could be considered kind of bleak? But I find it very comforting.

It means that when the panicky little man in my brain, that runs my mental health, decides to throw his clipboard up into the air and storm out -causing a complete cluster fuck- I know, deeeeeep deep down, it’s going to be okay. And my muscles relax enough for me to take a deep breath.

Please remember that if you are struggling in anyway, talking to someone is always a good decision. And there are more people around you than you realize who are there for you and want to help in anyway they can. We are coming into a very challenging time of year for a lot of people and we need to look after each other.

Practice self care! Take that long hot shower, go for that walk in the cold air, snuggle all the animals, drink that wonderful latte, get that happy light out of the closet and (if applicable) take your meds on time EVERYDAY.

This week take a moment and send a quick text or call to someone you think needs it and make them smile. It can be your good deed for the day. They’ll probably appreciate it more than you know.

Love, Kay

P.S. Have you ever heard of box breathing? It’s a wonderful tool for anxiety and you should try it. Breathe in for 4, hold for 4, breathe out for 4, hold for 4 and REPEAT until you you feel your heart rate slow. It’s a skill and takes time to perfect. But well worth the effort.


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